Every year I struggle to not set New Year’s resolutions. Every year, I tell myself that I am not going to set myself up for failure one more time. And then, every year, I find myself excited and motivated about some crazy goal (or, more likely, 14 or 15 crazy goals) that somehow managed to slip into my consciousness without me acknowledging they’re new year’s resolutions at all.
This year, I am going to head myself off at the pass. I’m going to set a few, simple resolutions.
First, let’s talk some more about being judgmental. I’m no expert, but it seems like the path to being a bitter and lonely person is to make your way through the world by clinging to small thoughts, thinking the worst of others, jumping to uninformed and unfair conclusions, and summarizing others whole characters based on what may be a few isolated events.
Since “Don’t be judgmental” doesn’t work so well as a resolution–it’s oh, so hard to focus on not doing something–I will instead:
- Notice when I am being judgmental
- Correct myself in my phrasing or thinking to make it non-judgmental.
For example, if I hear myself saying, “He’s an idiot.” I will correct myself to say, “In this particular instance, his idea doesn’t work so well.” This gives me a positive action to take instead of something to worry about avoiding. After all, if there’s one important lesson I’ve learned from hang gliding, it’s that when we fixate on what we want to avoid, we end up right in the middle of the puddle.
Second, I want to revisit the idea of coming up with great gift ideas for my loved ones. Since trying to come up with ideas for everyone might be a bit too much to expect, my resolution is to come up with great gift ideas for the 2 most difficult people I buy gifts for: my nephew and my husband. The rules for this resolution are that the gifts must be within the price range I normally spend for Christmas, but can be purchased and given at any time. The gifts must be received and agreed upon to be great gift ideas by both my nephew and my husband for my resolution to be achieved.
Finally, since I like a list to have at least three items in it, I resolve to eat more fruits and vegetables. I am a bit disappointed that I need this resolution–eating lots of fruits and vegetables had become a way of life for me some time ago. However, since I find myself eating fewer and fewer fruits and vegetables, I resolve to eat enough fruits and vegetables to average 3 or more servings per day. By fruits and vegetables, I mean raw or steamed, unprocessed foods. French fries are not a vegetable.
Three resolutions. We shall see if even that is too much.